29 September 2011

Claws out

I was going to write about my outfit, but instead I need to rant a little. I love to read Refinery29, but sometimes I forget the primary readership is college and high school students. I commented on the article about fancy nail designs that they are great and I can't wait to try some on vacation, though I don't have time on the regular for it. Someone replied in a condescending way that I should do it while I watch a movie.
Right. I don't have enough time to decorate my nails and wait for them to fully dry, so of course I have plenty of time for movie watching (please note my sarcasm). Someone else chimed in helpfully that their "BFF Mia has time!" Good for her, and I mean that.
That being said I also work all day (out the door at 7:30 in the morning and not home until 7pm) and like to cook, spend time with my boyfriend and friends, and blog, all of which I only have a limited amount of time to do after my long day of commuting+working. I would much rather spend that free time on the weekend with my friends or out doing things. Sure, I paint my nails from time to time and I wish I could do it more often but frankly, its the sitting still and waiting for it to dry that makes me feel like I'm wasting my limited free time. Multi-tasking and nail-art do not mix and I don't want to get nail polish all over my computer if I blog while waiting for them to dry. I've tried this and it ends in disaster and nail polish on my computer screen, keyboard, and somehow in my hair. Just painting them a solid color can be a daunting task that gets put off time and time again in favor of clean and neatly groomed.
Today someone paid me a great compliment, "Your work-life balance is impressive." I appreciate that more than they know because I am thoughtful of it. I work smarter, not longer in my work and personal life. I'm choosy in how and with whom I spend my time and I draw firm lines between work and not-work. There is very little bullshit, seeing my friends and family and boyfriend means a lot more to me that having fancy fingernails. Sometimes its fun and I feel pretty but only when it doesn't interfere with anything I deem more important. Plenty of people think my blog is a waste of time, but then where would this rant go?
My comment was meant to be a little cheeky, but nice nonetheless because the ideas are great. It was more in the vein of, "I'd love to do this when I've got a little free time, thanks for the tips."
The replies were meant to be obnoxious.
Sometimes the Internet makes me so annoyed. I shouldn't even waste my time thinking about this. Maybe then I'd have time for a movie and a nail-art sesh! (Yea, I'm rolling my eyes)
Part of this is coming from the fact that I'm in the middle of a big work decision and my stress level is at an all time high. Throw a neverending sinus infection on top of it and you get an incredibly irate Kallie. Blogging, reading online mags like R29 and commenting is my place to think about something else. To just immerse myself in something completely "other" from my job is a teeny break in the daily routine. The problem is the frustration I feel when people think they are being cute or helpful when they clearly know nothing about me.

23 comments

  1. SWEATshirt DRESSshirtSeptember 29, 2011 at 12:35 AM

    Wow! I really love your nails, as well as the 3 designs featured on Refinery 29. I've heard about the website before, but have never checked it out. Thanks for getting me into it. :)
    XO,SWEATshirt DRESSshirt

    P.S. Your hair looks really good!

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  2. I'm so guilty of painting my nails, then using the computer. Fortunately I have never got any on the keyboard, or mouse, but there's an interesting selection of colours next to my keyboard where I actually paint them.
    It's a nice little montage of the colours my nails have been over the years.

    Rant away hun... No one else will ever know exactly what any one elses life is like. All those little intricasies which require constant juggling.
    Hope the decision works out and you're feeling better soon.

    beks xx

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  3. Don't sweat it - I think it is so easy to misconstrue things and be mean over the internet! As long as you are true to yourself, who cares when you paint your nails? :D

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  4. People can be terrible on the internet. Your nails do look awesome though.

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  5. Oh Kallie - some people just dont get it do they! Rant away - hope you dont let some ppls comments get you down!! xx

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  6. Its so funny because I actually have a friend who always does funky things with her nails and she recently told me that she goes to Sephora on her lunch break and does them with the samples. 
    Thanks  for saying that about my work decision. It should be sorted by Friday. EEK!
    xo

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  7. I love R29, sometimes they have stupid articles, but always good pictures. I really liked the "V" nails they featured in that article. A LOT! I can't wait to try it out with some nice fall colors.

    Haha, this pic is from MAY! But thanks for the hair compliment :) You're a sweetheart.

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  8. I had a really long reply and just deleted it. WHAT the heck.

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  9. Good rant, buddy.  I'm sorry those people upset you.  It is hard to balance work and play; we definitely need to prioritize.  Oops, gotta stop blogging... I'm late for my trial!

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  10. Love the colorful nails!
    xo

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  11. That is how I feel about nails always.  I think pretty nails are great and I always notice peoples' nail colors and such, but I just never have the time to do it, and just sitting there waiting for them to dry drives me cray cray.  

    Internet communities can be such frustrating things.  In one way, they're really wonderful and such an awesome way to connect with like-minded people and make new friends (yay us!!) but then every once in a while someone makes a comment or tries to help out, and we're blown away by how little they actually know us.  

    I think you really do have a great work-life balance, at least from what I know.  One of the reasons I think we get along so well, is that we love clothes/fashion/blogging etc but they don't control our lives.  Some people fail to see we have complete & full lives outside of our blogs.  With the crazy sched you have, I think it's amazing how many things you manage to fit into your week.  You're a great prioritizer! 

    Anyways.. work decision?  Hope everything gets sorted out.  Email me if you want!! x

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  12. Don't let the bastards grind you down!  I've had the same chipping nail polish on my toes since late August because I haven't had time (or remover, actually) to take it off.  I always have to remind myself that while my readers are an awesome group of people, the internet, like life, is largely populated by total morons. ; )  Wisdom of the day.

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  13. oh Kallie, don't let the idiots bother you. You have a huge more exciting life than they do :]]
    Plus your nails look fab. I might try your idea instead :]]

    Charlotte x

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  14. Nail polishes shall be just something you add for fun, when you got time, and not something you should use every day if you do not want to. Individual freedom is all persons rights to have. I understand your annoyance in this subject, it is never fun getting critics for something like this, for what you do with your spare time. My advice is rant away about this today, and forget about those idiots tomorrow. They are not worth this energy and time, which you can spend on other more fun things.

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  15. I would be annoyed too! I hate it when people are condescending like that or assume that everyone has exactly the same lives that they do and so if you're not doing what they're doing you must be an idiot or lazy. I have 4 jobs and work 6 days a week and it is so hard to keep a work-life balance that's fulfilling and so I really respect how well you do it and how frequently you can still update your blog in that time. Props to you!

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  16. Bad ass! I love a good rant on a blog-it gets a little bummer-tastic to just see sunshine and rainbows everywhere. You have my sisterly support lady!

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  17. That sort of "everyone's life must be just like mine" attitude is so annoying, even from college/HS-aged people. Plenty of their peers also don't have a lot of time due to work/extracurriculars/actually studying, so at least you know that these individuals are probably also aggravating their friends, haha. The nails turned out great, by the way.

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  18. The problem was that you said "who has time for this on the regular." If you had said you didn't have time, it would have been fine, but you were rude towards everyone who does paint their nails regularly.  To you "fancy nails" aren't important and that's fine. But when you're rude and act like a martyr  who has no time to paint her nails, it's irritating. Painting your nails isn't a priority for you? That's fine.  But saying painting your nails regularly is a waste of time because there are more important things to be doing? That's condescending..

     P.S.    You have time to take pictures of yourself in tacky clothes.. but not to
    paint your nails?

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  19. Dear Guest,Obviously you didn't read the part where I said I didn't mean it the way it came out, and even cited that many people think blogging is a waste of time. How about you grow a set use your real name like I did?  Or are you afraid to call someone tacky and not attach yourself to it? Thats awfully juvenile. 
    I'm no martyr. I was irritated and this is my blog where I very rarely rant about things.
    You can fuck off. Or better yet, write about it on your blog and let me read it. Unless you're afraid to make your insults public.
    Thanks.

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  20. Hmm, I get what you're talking about, you just don't need comments like that sometimes, but I do feel that you shouldn't let it bother you - just say to yourself "whatever!" and let it go. At least, that's what I try in these situations...doesn't always work though :-)

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  21. Yea exactly. The post was more about the time management thing, and how its important to set priorities (whatever those may be). I was also in a foul mood about work haha, I just can't talk about work on the blog so...I guess I had to unleash it somehow ;)

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  22. brush off your shoulders girl. don't let the random internet people get you down. it's just nail polish for goodness sake people! leave the sweet lady alone!

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